Say what you mean, mean what you say

What exactly do I mean? I mean do not let your mouth go in motion before your brain does. So often we will let our emotions speak for us when our emotions are out of control. When we let our emotions talk for us more often than not, we say things we later regret. Even though we may apologize and patch up the feelings that are hurt, you cannot un-hear what you have already heard. When you are angry, hurt, or even confused about something just wait. Just take some time to think things over. Take time to weigh the positives and the negatives of your actions. Are the consequences worth the results you seek? Are you truly ready to destroy or cripple a relationship, or friendship? Is the matter at hand in dire need of immediate attention? Or is it possible that it can wait for a few minutes, or even longer? Give yourself some time to think, and talk to someone close that can help you make a wise decision. Or just approach the situation diplomatically with an open mind and discuss what is on your mind calmly. You must also be prepared and willing to calmly listen. It is not wise to talk to someone else simply to get someone on your side when you have not first talked to the source of the problem. You need someone that will be open-minded, and objective and see your situation from more than just your side, your perspective. You need someone that can talk to all parties involved and perhaps mediate. Short tempers, unfounded accusations, hurtful words, threats of bodily injury, or financial damages can leave scars. Scars may heal on the surface but will leave a lifelong wound on the inside. You cannot tell someone that you hate them or want to destroy them and ever expect them to believe that no matter what you no longer harbor those feelings. If you didn’t feel it even in anger you could not say it. We have always heard that actions speak louder than words. Words however combined with action are compounded and felt much deeper than mere words alone. So, no matter what’s going on in your life, or who it’s going on with. Choose your words wisely. Let your brain go in motion before your mouth does. Then and only then, can you say what you mean, and mean what you say.

Simply my Thoughts
Dean Butler