No one had to ask me

When you were sick, no one had to ask me to care for you. I love you and care about you, so how could I not? When you were injured and hurt, no one asked me to get you medical attention. They did not have to. I love you and care about you, how could I not? When you labored working hard even when you are older, no one asked me to make an effort to make your life better and easier. They did not have to. When you were hungry because you had no food, no one asked me to buy food for you and to cook for you. They did not have to. I love you and I care for you, how could I not? When the home you live in is damaged and in need of repair that you cannot do, no one asked me to fix your home. They did not have to. When the bed upon which you sleep is hard as the earth and you are old, no one asked me to make your sleep more comfortable. They did not have to. When someone lashed out at you and tried to harm you, physically, or emotionally, no one asked me to stand up for you and protect you. They did not have to.
Sadly, there are many that live in a delusional world that believes all they need to do is say they care and that should be enough to convince you. There are some that believe that all that is required of them is their mere presence to convey the same.
I feel very bad for you if you believe that letting your elderly mother carry heavy buckets of water, chop wood, and wash YOUR laundry by hand all while you relax on the sofa or a nearby hammock is showing her that you care. I feel sad for you if you are ok with any man trash-talking your mother or raising his hand to her, even if it is your brother or your father. You can say you care, you can say I love you, but your actions speak volumes, while your words are empty. You want to find fault in someone that shows love, shows they care without needing to be asked because of how guilty and bad you feel for not doing the same. You can say it’s about money, but it cost no money to carry a bucket of water, chop some wood for the fire, wash your own clothes and allow the one that has spent your entire life serving you an opportunity to rest. It cost no money to stand up to the man even if it is your brother or father and tell him that he will NOT talk to your mother this way, he will NOT raise his hand to her or trash talk her to others. It does not cost you money to serve yourself a smaller portion of food so that she can have an equal amount also. You try to find fault in those that have a heart and love freely without conditions or needing to be told because you cannot find any other way to excuse your own neglect from doing the same.
When you love someone or care about someone you should not have to be told they need care or help unless you are not there to see with your own eyes. If you see it or you are told about it then don’t blame the one that can see for your blindness. If you care? Show them you care. If you love them? Show them you love them.
If you think it makes you weak because you humble yourself and care for another openly, you live a sad miserable misinformed life. What kind of REAL man will stand by and watch his brother or his father trash talk or threaten to harm his mother? Let me help you with that one, NO real man would stand for it. I can promise you my father would never have disrespected my mother or raised his hand to her. Even if he would have been that kind of person, not one of his 7 kids would have allowed it.  It doesn’t matter if it is your mother, father, sister, or brother. If they are in need and you can help them, how does that make you a bad person? Do you know what kind of people will say something negative to you for helping them or someone else out of the goodness of your heart? Selfish, prideful, arrogant people, that think they are too good to be humble and grateful. Giving is when someone does something for someone else with a selfless heart and the receiver should have a gracious heart. If I can see that a stranger needs help and offer my help for free, how could I not do the same for someone I care about? A stranger will show you how thankful they are they may even offer to pay you. Often those you care about, and help are ungrateful and treat you as if you owe it to them. Another delusional thought. If you are not paying me, feeding me, working for me, or doing anything else for me, I owe you absolutely nothing more than the respect that you earned. Stop being ugly to the people that have shown you over and over how they care about you, while you show them over and over how little you care about them. Stop acting like the world owes you something more than you earned. You get what you give. If you don’t believe that is a fact, why don’t you just think about it a bit? You give of yourself, others will give back, you give money, money will be given to you, you give food, food will be given to you, you give an attitude, you will get an attitude back, smile and the whole world smiles back at you.

Simply My Thoughts
Dean Butler