Growing up we find encouragement in almost all that we do, by almost everyone that we know. Failure is not acceptable. We are encouraged to try again, and again, and again, and keep on trying until we succeed. Our family assures us that if we don’t give up we can do anything. We are told the world is ours if we want it bad enough, we will find a way to have it. It doesn’t matter how physically painful the success we desire is, we are encouraged to endure the pain and win all that we desire. It doesn’t matter how humiliated we are. We are encouraged to hold up our heads with pride and never give up. Quitters never win. If we are making every possible effort to have what we want, it is possible to have it. It isn’t until we give up that failure overwhelms us and success seems hopeless. For the most part the majority… will persevere. All these ideals apply in every aspect of our lives. It can be academically, careers, sports, and every conceivable monetary item under the sun. All these ideals apply to every aspect of our lives…. but one…love. For some reason so many believe that once love has betrayed them, hurt them, or humiliated them, it can no longer possibly exist. They are convinced that ALL men or ALL women are evil and hell-spawned. They refuse to open their hearts to know that pain again. So, I ask you, how is love any different than anything else in your life that you would truly want the very best of? How can you possibly love fully and unconditionally if you are constantly comparing your past with your present? How can you possibly hope for the best if you are not giving your best? Your success is not measured by all that you have accomplished in life. It is measured by the obstacles you overcame. Maybe you were lied to, cheated on, beaten, and humiliated. All these things can and will be done to us in every other aspect of our lives. Yet we refuse to give up, we refuse to accept defeat. We stand fast on acquiring our hearts’ desire. For you to have all that you have in your life, you gave your all and refused to accept defeat. If you truly want to know love perhaps you should put as much into the love you desire as everything else in your life you put so much into. Don’t accept defeat, never give up on your dreams. Even if your dream is happily ever after.
Simply my thoughts
Dean Butler
