I wonder if maybe I am trapped in a make-believe world, one that only myself and very few others have seen or live in today. I wonder what happened to men being a gentleman, chivalry, respect, pride, and integrity. I could not understand why there was no place for a key to unlock the passenger side door of our car. Every time I walked out with my daughter or any female passenger to unlock and open her door It would anger me that I could not. Sitting in that car it hit me, now I know why. Guy’s do not open doors for their wives, girlfriends, mothers, or anyone. They do not pump gas, carry heavy items, hold an umbrella to keep them dry in the rain, walk on the traffic side of the sidewalk between them, and any danger. Guy’s do not do these things anymore. They do not say good morning or evening, ma’am, pardon or excuse me, ma’am. They do not pay for the meals, movie tickets, or snacks. They do not stand up for them when someone disrespects them for no apparent reason. They do not call them their girlfriends or wives, they are their bitches or ho’s. They do not try to comfort them when they are scared or worried. They do not make them feel good about themselves, or the things that they do. They do not do any of these things now, not anymore. It scares me when I think of how they treat women, ladies, or girls now. I wonder what their daughters, and granddaughters will have to look forward to? They always say something about equal rights, and I am all for equal rights of women just like everyone else. Nowhere in the ERA (Equal Rights Amendment) does it state that being equal to you means being treated as being less than you. Women can walk iron beams in the construction of a skyscraper, fly jetliners, shoot any weapon in our military, ride a bull, sail a boat, work a 12-hour day, go home fix dinner, help their kids with homework, get them all ready for bed, bring you a cold beer, rub your shoulders, make love to you all night and start the whole process again the next day. And you think they are bitches and ho’s? Bet you can not do it…..guy. I know of grown guys that sit and watch their elderly mothers chop firewood, wash their laundry by hand, carry buckets of water from the well, clean up the messes they make every day all while they sit and watch TV or chill in the hammocks outside. How any guy can call himself a man and watch his mother do a man’s work while he does none I find impossible to comprehend. Some say that I am old school or old-fashioned and maybe they are right. There are far more women, ladies, and girls that would rather be looked up to as an equal and treated like a queen than there will ever be any that would rather be looked down on and treated like trash. I used the word men as the title of this thought, and at the very beginning. After that, I referred to them as guys. They are guys because men do not act as they do. They never have and they never will. For the sake of your daughter’s, granddaughter’s, the mother of your son’s, and your own mother do you not think that it is time? Time for YOU to MAN up?
Simply My Thoughts
Dean Butler
