Have you ever wondered about your own relationship? Does your spouse or partner love you? Or are you more of a possession to them? Do they greet you when they come home from work, telling you how much they miss you and love you? Or do they take your phone and check your messages, look at your social media pages, if you are allowed to have them? Or start accusing you of talking to someone or seeing someone, anything but acting like they love you and trust you? Do they naturally make you happy? Are they proud to be a part of your life every day? Or is it a dreadful task? Making you feel it is more of an obligation and inconvenience than an honor. Do they think of you even before or more so than they do themselves? Or are you thought of at all, an afterthought at best? Are they concerned about your wellbeing, your health? Or just their own, you are not allowed to be sick or tired. Are they always eager to help you, be with you, get involved with things you like to do? Or do they order you around, choose your friends, keep you away from any kind of social life without them there also. Do they call you on the way home to see if there is anything you need? Or wait until they get there and tell you to do without or go get it yourself, and you better not be too long? Do they help you clean up after you have worked all day and they have sat around the house doing nothing? Or are they so much better than you that they don’t feel it’s their place to clean anything, ever? Do they offer to carry heavy things for you being concerned about your hurting yourself straining too much? Or just tell you that you wanted to be equal so carry your share? A relationship is a partnership a joint venture of building a happy, healthy, and prosperous life together. You don’t tell someone you want to spend your life with them, start a family with them and then start to change them. If you were not satisfied with who they are and all their ways, why did you pursue a relationship with them in the first place? If you didn’t like the way they dressed, the friends they spent time with, the family they are a part of, what did interest you? Life is too short to be miserable and unhappy. You need to stop and look at your relationship and make a choice. Accept it for what it is and be happy. Decide if any part of it is worth fixing and seek whatever help you need to fix it. Or cut your losses and move on. When you make these choices, you need to consider everything and everyone that your choice will affect. If there are children, you need to put their welfare and wellbeing above your own. Relationships are not ownerships, that would be slavery which was abolished years ago. If you don’t trust your partner to be faithful, move on. If they are going to cheat, they are going to cheat, and your jealousy will only push them harder in that direction. Trust is not exchanging phones for a day, it is never having the thought that you need to, cross your mind. Love like you care about your partner or set them free. If you’re not capable of love, don’t even utter the words… I love you.
Simply my Thoughts
Dean Butler
