I saw today that a friend was pretty angry. This friend was angry because it seems they are always helping people but when they need help themselves no one is around, they have excuses as to why they can not help or just boldly lie about it. Out of anger, this friend has decided not to help anyone anymore. The strongest word in this friend’s vocabulary from now on is going to be NO!!! When I read this I was going to simply share my thoughts with them as I so often do with many. As I was writing my thoughts I noticed more and more replies to this friend’s complaint and supporting the choice this friend was making. From that, I decided to leave the friend out of it directly and share this thought with everyone and hope this friend will see it as well. Anger hurt, and disappointment is not so uncommon to all of us. Many can relate to being on the giving end more so than the receiving also. To stop helping others is letting those that did not help you define who you are. To get back at them you are becoming them. I ask you how can this be a good thing? If it is the good in people that you seek then it must be good that they see in you. I can assure you acting badly is not going to make bad better. When we give, when we provide a service out of kindness, when we help, it is not or should not be with the expectations of getting something in return. These things are like a gift, the gift is in giving. This does not mean however that you cannot use discretion when you help, or when you give. It does not always have to be one way or the other, there is an in-between. If you want to change you must understand and believe that it begins with you. If you are angry because you did not get what you gave, what will you be when you never give but you receive? You will be that person that says “wow, there really are still some good people in the world”! You will be that person that has the rare chance to see what you once were. Don’t be that other person. Be you, be proud of who you are, and the example you lead and I promise you that you are making a much bigger impact on the people around you than you ever will being that other person. You can not expect to get that which you are not willing to freely give.
Simply my thoughts
Dean Butler
