I really cannot understand why there is such a word let alone the emotion. It is completely and totally a waste. Not only have I experienced an extreme dose of it but I see it often in the lives of others. I see the damage it causes to relationships and individuals. It always starts the same and the ending ranges from arguing to physical fighting and has even led to death. That is pretty serious for a meaningless pointless emotion, is it not? In the beginning, jealousy has no place in a relationship simply because you love your significant other. Now you are thinking, so, and your point? My point is, what is love without trust? How can you truly say I love you and mean it based on even the simplest and most common definition of love, and not trust them at the same time? It is not possible, unless, of course, your definition of love is far different than even the norm. But let us throw a variable in the mix. Someone cheated on someone and you love them so much you are going to try and make it work. For this reason, you do not or can not trust them. Right? Wrong, the magic word is love. No doubt you must love them very much to have forgiven them for their unfaithfulness. Love and forgiveness go hand in hand and distrust has no part in it. Once you forgive that transgression, it is no more, it is gone. If not then you lied to them as well as yourself you did not forgive anyone, and you do not love them as much as you thought you did. Let us look at the logic of jealousy. If you are convinced your other half is cheating and you feel that if you make it hard for them it will not happen, you are only fooling yourself. If they are going to cheat, they will find a way, you cannot stop it. So now you have a cheating significant other. What do you do? Spy on them? Try to find out who it is and plan your revenge. Why? What could you possibly hope to accomplish besides hurting yourself and your children if you have any? Let me share with you the best way to get past this. Once you find the person your significant other is cheating with, go up to them with a big smile, extend your hand to shake theirs, or hell just give them a hug and tell them, thank you. Thank you, for showing me just what kind of untrustworthy partner I had. Thank you, for taking him or her off my hands and I wish you a long trusting (pun intended) relationship. Go prepare to live, take care of yourself, go out, meet someone, and discover true love. Someone you can trust unconditionally. Why drive yourself insane over something you cannot stop or change? Why destroy the rest of your life when you just got rid of the worst part of it? If you love someone love them and trust them with all that you are and experience true love. If you leave them, leave them with a smile in your heart because you know you deserve better and that better is out there looking for someone just like you. Do not waste your emotions on jealousy and do not live in a jealous relationship, there is no real love if your significant other is jealous. To distrust you supersedes love and all it stands for. Always love as you have never been hurt. Trust is not trading phones for a day. Trust is never letting the thought that you need to cross your mind. Leave past relationships in the past. They have no place in your future.
Simply my thoughts
Dean Butler
