I am sure many of you have heard this saying, “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone”. I am sure most know who said it and why. With that in mind I would like to ask you, are you perfect? Have you not ever made a mistake? Do you put all that has happened in your life out in plain view for all to see and share? I am willing to bet that every one of you is just like me and everyone else and cannot say yes to any of those questions.
Yet how many are quick to call the kettle black and point out the wrongs of others no matter how trivial they may be? Is it because they long to be in the middle of drama? Is it because they love to see others hurt or upset? Is it because they are bored and have nothing better to do in their own lives? Or is it out of pure meanness and hatefulness? Children often call other children names because it is the only method they know of expressing anger. Often adults will do the same. It is not because it is the only way they know how to express anger, but because they have not learned how to keep from slipping back into that childlike mentality. As an adult, we scold or even punish our children for name-calling, especially foul names. We do this because we want to teach them respect, morals, ethics, and integrity. Who is there to scold us when we say mean disrespectful things to others? Or perhaps you have that mentality that gives you that delusional sense of righteous authority telling others to do as you say do not as you do. That’s like while blowing smoke in your teenager’s face from your cigarette you order them never to smoke or else. Okay…..
We stand with our weapon of choice, a belt, switch, paddle, etc until the wrong has been made right until the child has apologized for being disrespectful and we know that all is forgiven and going to be okay. We teach our children not to pick on others just because we can. Do not hurt someone because you are bigger, or they are handicapped in some way. We teach our children the difference between right from wrong, and good from bad. We warn them of the consequences as well. We teach our children all these things that our parents and our mistakes in life taught us. What I am wondering is at what point in our lives did all we have learned, all that we try to teach no longer apply to us? Can anyone enlighten me on that one? Now when you think about it you are most likely thinking wow you know what he is right that makes perfect sense. You immediately start looking for things in your own life that need your attention. You immediately decide you want to lead your child by example. I implore you, people……… STOP, STOP, and think, stop and look at all that you say and do. What I am trying to get across to everyone is this. Find yourself in life, and know who you are and what you stand for. Practice what you preach. Do not let the actions of others define who you are or how you react to anything or any situation. Let your brain go in motion before your mouth does. If you can not say or do something nice, simply don’t say or do anything at all that will hurt or harm someone else. I can assure you there is NO mightier weapon, or tool in anything you do in life or the virtual world than respect, thoughtfulness, honor, and integrity. Combining these things will always make you a winner.
Simply my thoughts
Dean Butler
