Being your own man

What exactly is being your own man? Does it mean you consult your guy friends before you make any decisions? Does it mean that you consult your guy friends about your relationship? Or perhaps being your own man making sure that your guy friends never see you being a real husband or father to your family? I mean you being your own man wouldn’t want your guy friends to think you have a caring heart for your life partner or your children. That might make you appear weak in their eyes, very, very un-masculine. After all what kind of real man would ever put his family first? Being a real man, your own man requires you to always look the part, right? You need to look strong, tough, and in charge, like a boss. You can’t possibly be your own man and cater to your wife’s needs. You can’t possibly be your own man and put the needs of your children’s education, health, and safety first, can you? I mean what would your guy friends think of you? What kind of man are you anyway? Perhaps I can help you figure this out. To begin with, you can scratch the very notion of you being anything even remotely close to a man completely from your mind. You are barely a self-made anything aside from a male human being. A real man does not need the approval of an audience, nor does he conduct himself to entertain one. A real man will put his life partner, first and above all others and not care if it pisses off all of God’s creation. A real man will stop anything he is doing no matter what it may be or whom it may be with to take care of his children and their needs. A real man will own up to his responsibilities as a husband and a father. His first and foremost priorities are his relationship, and the health, stability, and safety of his family, not his friends. A real man is his own man when he doesn’t need the approval of others to do what is right for his family. A real man is his own man when he does not need a babysitter to sit over him to make sure he takes care of his responsibilities. The only thing stopping you from being your own man, a real man is you. Stop waiting for approval from your friends to be a man. Step up, man up, or shut up.

Simply my Thoughts
Dean Butler